Loving What Is changed my life
Before I found The Work, my life was mess. As long as I can remember, my father was always drunk and abusive towards us. I hated my parents. I also harbored a lot of anger towards my mother who I believed didn’t protect me from my crazy dad. I became rebellious and delinquent in my pre-teen years. I became a bully as a way to feel secure and earn the respect of my classmates. I despised the world and everyone in it. I often thought about taking my own life just to end the suffering.
Although I eventually moved away from my family to create a life for myself, I continued to experience damaged feelings and bitter memories for a very long time.
When I was introduced to The Work of Byron Katie, I was very skeptical about it. I thought the core idea of understanding stressful thoughts by asking four innocent questions and turning my thoughts around were just too simple to be useful.
Thinking back on it now, it took my father’s death, a miscarriage, and losing a job for me to finally grab Katie’s book, Loving What Is. Once I read Loving What Is, there was no way back. I knew this was it! This was what I’d been looking for all my life.
After I found The Work
Through The Work, I started noticing how angry I was about everything I saw, heard and experienced. I was in pain!! I was so scared of rejection that as soon as I “smelled” the rejection coming, I’d make the other person my enemy. I believed that rejection could kill me. This was a huge, huge realization.
The Work made me realize that I didn’t have to live like that anymore. As I worked on current stressful thoughts, I noticed that pretty much everything linked to my beliefs about my parents and especially my dad.
So I started questioning those beliefs. Even though my dad’s abusive behavior had caused my life and psyche a lot of hardship, I realized that I just couldn’t know for sure that it meant he didn’t love me. I had never even once thought that maybe my dad actually loved me until I started questioning my thoughts.
I started seeing the possibilities of “the other side” of my beliefs. What Byron Katie says is true: when my mind is clear and kind, the world becomes kinder. Through The Work, I found the kindness that was always there. I no longer find the hate I used to feel towards people.
Where I used to avoid people and shut down very quickly, I now can’t wait to be with people and look for deeper connections. These are just a few examples of how my world and perception have completely changed for the better.
There are so many more amazing things that keep happening in my life.
The Work is very simple. All you need is an open mind. I could not have dreamed that this simple method would have such a huge impact in my life when I grabbed Loving What Is that day.
That’s why I love sharing this amazing and powerful tool, The Work.
With all that I have learned, I am just as excited to say that my Work is not yet done–I am now learning to become a Best Friend of Mind.
I would love for you to join and experience the power of The Work!!